TOO SHY TO SAY “HI”?

If you’re alone time has turned and stretched into lonely weeks, months or even years, then it’s time to take your fabulous self out that shell.

            While some guys find it difficult to break away fro the barkada to spend some time alone, others might just have opposite dilemma. Often labeled as “LONERS”. If you’re a shy violet yourself but have had enough of sitting alone at the mush table and spending your weekends at home, then it’s time you to stopped being a hermit! Crawling out of your shell through these anti shy tips is the step in getting rid of your social phobia.

SMILE

Those pearly-whites are not just meant for chewing, but also for drawling in people. A smile lights up to your face, making you exude a friendly aura. Also, it forces to make eye contact, an important point in making good conversation. A cheerful-looking person is definitely nicer to talk to (and to look) than a grumpy-looking one. If a smile is not returned, don’t take it personally. Take heart! There are others who’ll gladly return your smile.

POWER TO REMEMBER

Have you experience someone, running up to you, yelling your name, but for the life of you, can’t remember hers? It’s even more disastrous if you addressed her in a wrong name, and she just shuffles away, either embarrassed or insulated. Bad memory drives away possible friendships. Practice good memory by remembering the names of the people you’ve met, or go further by remembering something about them. So the next time you bump into them at the Mall, you can confidently makes small talk. ”Hi Enoc! Do you still play badminton?” also, keep a calendar, where you’ve marked all your friends birthdays. Everyone likes to be remembered, especially on his or her special day.

SHARE YOURSELF

Yes, you are worth sharing! Keeping your talents, thoughts and love all to yourself won’t amount to much be generous and spread the wealth of “youness’. Why not speak up in class often? Or lend your hidden talent by volunteering in the school program? Someone once said, “Eating brownies makes us happy; sharing brownies makes us joyful.” Sharing makes difference.

BE PART OF THE ACTION

Watching things happen from the sidelines is pretty safe….but also boring! Join a club or an activity that interest you; the possibilities are endless! Pitch in your community’s clothes drive for flood victims or sign up for that dance class you’ve been dying (but too shy) to take all these months. Whatever you choose to do, you’re sure to do if either people who share your interests. Remember, friendships start from common wavelengths!

 BE OPEN   

Oftentimes, we are afraid  of the unfamiliar;  and getting rid of your shyness involves doing unfamiliar stuff like making the first move. Being open means choosing to live beyond your fears, and letting other people into your own world. This way you’ll get to know yourself better through them. Take a chance! No one can really win friendships without a bitter sweet combination of success and failure. Remember the saying “triumph is ‘try’ with an ‘umph!’

How to Gain Friends

I am very thankful for having good and true friends. “My Friends have been a part of my

Life for a long time and I value them a lot. They’re like family to me!” So I like to share to you these great ideas on how to win friends.

1.)   BE YOURSELF

This means accepting yourself. And if other people don’t like you, it’s OK. You can’t force everybody.

2.)   BE COOL

Don’t get irritated easily when people tease you. Most of the time, they mean nothing by it. Learn to laugh at yourself. Everybody likes someone with a sense of humor.

3.)   LEARN TO SAY THE RIGHT THING TO THE RIGHT TIME

No one wants to be with someone who complains all the time, or tries to give advice when it’s not wanted. Learn when to speak and when to lend an ear. Sometimes it’s all about timing.

4.)   BE FRIENDLY

It won’ hurt to be the first one to say “Hi”, even to someone you’ve just met. Soon, you may find your acquaintances turning into friends.

5.)   LOVE YOURSELF

This means recognizing your assets and sharing talents without other people. You can’t expect people to like you if you don’t even like yourself.

6.)   LEARN TO FORGIVE

If someone does you wrong, keep in mind that everybody makes mistakes. Forgive and forget. No one wants to be around someone who constantly makes them feel guilty.

7.)   BE TRUE AND HONEST TO YOUR FRIENDS

If you’re the type who lies and makes stories, you’ll eventually find yourself with out friends.

We Teenagers Need Privacy, Too

Yes, we need some personal space, too. It’s not that we are shutting you out- it’s just part and parcel of the growing up process. The need for privacy stems to our need to discover our sense of self and guess what—YOU MUST RESPECT IT!

                        Signs that we are asking for some privacy.

• In five to seven-year-olds: They don’t want to be bathed or dressed
• In older kids like nine-year-olds: They start to collect their own things and become possessive of these.
• In pre-teeners: They may ask for their own phone in their bedrooms
• In teenagers: We become secretive about what we are doing, where we want to go, whom we spent hour on the phone with the previous night.

Ways to show to us that you respect our need for our own space

• For five to seven-year-olds: Put up one of those pop-up tents in the living room or their own room. This is a very gentle way for them to separate themselves from mom and dad.
• For eight to eleven-year-olds: Treasures chests (that can be locked) to hold all their collectibles and little stashes of cards and other doo-dads will be a big hit!
• For teenagers: Our very own phone is great way to show your respect our need for private conversation. However, do set rules on how long were allowed to use the phone especially on weekdays.

Lesson about Pain and Illness:

1. What is Pain? – “First Love”
2. What triggers pain? –“Memories”
3. What can heal pain?-“Time”
4. What lengthens pains?-“Martyrdom”
5. What is the initial sign of pain?-“Tears”
6. What is the primary defense mechanism of pain?-“Denial”
7. What is the primary stressor of pain?-“Theme Song”
8. How can you remove pain?-“Let Go”
9. How can you forget pain?-“Move On”
10. What is the history of pain?-“Break Up”

“BECAUSE WE HAVE A HEART THAT LOVES!”